My family suffered the loss of a beloved grandmother recently and I've grown quiet over the last couple months. I come from a line of women who externalize emotions onto other people. So I tend to get quiet when I'm going through a stressful time to avoid making others sad, angry or miserable. However, I realized recently that The Snarkology becomes more about other people than me when I internalize.
My New Year's Resolution is to get chatty again.
Like most writers, I only want to be adored.
My friends can testify that I'm quite a bit snarkier in real life than on my blog. I blunt my sarcasm for fear of alienating and/or angering readers. Humor is one of my outlets but even there I self-censor.
Last year, I visited with a fellow Rose on her blog and talked about how difficult sharing my written humor is for me for fear of being misunderstood, angering or offending. I want to make people laugh, not hurt feelings. Or worse--that secret fear of being that goofball over in the corner chortling over my own jokes.
Naturally, a commenter threw in their two cents:
Like most writers, I only want to be adored.
My friends can testify that I'm quite a bit snarkier in real life than on my blog. I blunt my sarcasm for fear of alienating and/or angering readers. Humor is one of my outlets but even there I self-censor.
Last year, I visited with a fellow Rose on her blog and talked about how difficult sharing my written humor is for me for fear of being misunderstood, angering or offending. I want to make people laugh, not hurt feelings. Or worse--that secret fear of being that goofball over in the corner chortling over my own jokes.
Naturally, a commenter threw in their two cents:
"OMG, writing humor is hard? Nobody told me. I’ve probably been doing it wrong all this time. Hold on, if it hard, then I wouldn’t be having any fun..and if I’m not having fun, how can I possibly be funny. I want a second source and an official accreditation that this source is qualified to judge funny. And it can’t me my imaginary cat. That’s who I use."
I bit clean through my tongue being polite. My real reaction went more along the lines of: SERIOUSLY? WTF! What a self-involved person. Because, YES! I was totally writing about YOU! YOU! YOU!
Thank you!
Thank you!
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Last week I talked about what I accomplished in 2013, so this week I'm putting down some writing goals for 2014.
1. See THE MATING GAME published and promoted. (This one is a gimme since all the real work is done. My Wild Rose editor says we're ready to wrap up editing soon.)
2. BATTLE CRY, book 3 in my Loki's Wolves series, is complete. The next step is to polish, obtain feedback from beta readers, polish again, editing, editing, and more editing. Publish and promote.
>>> I said that I'd do a cover reveal to celebrate so I'm going to schedule that soon. Just need to finish pounding out a blurb to go with it.
3. Write and submit three short erotica stories to become part of THE MATING GAME series.
4. Complete the first draft of TRICKSTER, book 4 of my Loki's Wolves series.
5. Finish HELL ON HIGH HEELS and submit to an agent.
This is a lot. I hope I'm not being too ambitious but I'd rather try and fail than not try and fail anyway. Wish me luck!
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Your plan for 2014 may be ambitious, but I have supreme confidence in you. Go, go, go! (That's the frustrated cheerleader in me.) I burst out laughing when I read the blog commenter's comment. People never cease to amaze me, but without them, where would we get our best material?
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DeleteThank you! I don't have supreme confidence but I'll go go go and see how it goes. :D Does that make me a frustrated quarter back?
I snickered too but I my best material still comes from my family. I can tease them without seeming like a total meanie. *G*
Good luck! I admire your well thought out goals. I know you can do it and I'm sooo looking forward to that first draft of Trixter!
ReplyDeleteLisa, Thanks. You're a sweetie. And OMG--Trixter. That has to be my new nickname for the book. LOL
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